Yesterday my French client in her second day of lock-down shared,
I’m indulging. I had a whole pizza for breakfast and then popcorn slathered in butter before lunch. While I binged three movies I ate pancakes drowning in maple syrup. I just wanted to erase Covid-19 from my thoughts. I wanted to binge the fear away. But now I just feel empty and useless.
Choosing indulging as a way to eliminate fear can paralyze us emotionally while disconnecting us from our bodies.
How about using indulging constructively?
At the top of each hour today ask yourself, “How might I engage wholeheartedly in a life of meaning…right now? And then indulge yourself into the answer without waiting!”
Notice what arises and what dissolves.
May we all purposely engage wholeheartedly in a life of meaning today. A life that is focused on contribution, invention, and creativity.
When fear arrives it hides security, safety and stability. What to do? Determine the antidotes.
These questions might help: •What will give me safety in this moment? •How can I experience security right now? •What is the first step I can do to meet my needs for stability? And now engage those answers by putting them into action aka do them!
And then…love yourself up, your oldest and dearest friend. Put your arms around yourself and give yourself a big long hug… That hug will often squeeze the fear right out of you.
Why? Because with mind training the negative self-talk, stagnant qi and isolative behavior of depression is put in the back parking lot of your mind to rest.
Make this your own personal experiment: Let your eyes focus on an inanimate object. Notice. Keep focusing. Notice what arises in you? Keep focusing. Bear witness on your world just like Gandolf the Cat is doing. What do you notice about your thoughts? Keep focusing in tandem with bearing witness. What do you notice now?
To know more about how mindfulness can be an antidote to depression enroll in The Art of Engaged Mindfulness class. Here’s the academic calendar link to view our Winter, 2020 classes.
One antidote is to simply let the breath guide us into stability. Sit like a strong mountain inhaling and exhaling slowly for five minutes.
Over time as you focus and cultivate your practice increase the breathwork from five minutes once a day to five minutes three times a day.
As you cultivate this skill your mind and body will engage in calmness and relaxation. It is truly common to feel the stability of a mountain as you continue to practice. Your thoughts will slow down and retire to the back plateau of your mind.